I’m using Chaos Engineering to monkey with my children

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What’s more complex, a large-scale distributed system or a child. For parents, it’s obvious. At least systems tend to behave rationally. However, much like children, large systems are inherently complex. As complexity increases, unforeseen behavior emerges and causes unpredictable results. Sound like a child? Chaos Engineering, a software engineering methodology, aims to understand that complexity through experiments. Chaos Engineering is the practice of utilizing experiments to better understand complex systems by intentionally causing chaos and measuring […]

I stopped giving my kids Christmas presents to teach them charity, gratitude, and appreciation.

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For our twins’ first Christmas, the pile of presents under the tree surrounded the entire tree and stacked up halfway. That was just the presents for the boys. Gift giving is a holiday tradition for many families but with new children, it can easily feel excessive. For their second Christmas, we decided to minimize presents as much as possible, especially from us, and do our best to teach them charity and gratitude instead. It’s going […]

Am I feeding my kids enough? Parental food anxiety is real.

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After graduating from bottles to solid food, so many new fears come out around feeding children. Bottles allow easy measurement of the amount of food so it’s fairly easy to know if kids are getting enough. Once the real food starts, measuring the amount is just the tip of the iceberg. From worrying about nutrition to allergies and anxiety about refusing food, it gets so much harder for parents. On the bright side, watching kids […]

Technology has changed, but is it for the better?

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Call me old, but I remember the days before the internet, the iPhone, and modern computers. I was a do-it-your-selfer, building several computers from components, throwing together programs starting on a graphing calculator, moving to BASIC, and eventually learning to program. This aptitude gave me the ability to problem solve and focus on a singular, difficult task until complete, and I feel is responsible for my success in software development as a career. The industry […]

My grandfather died. This is how I’m trying to explain it to my kids

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My grandfather recently passed away. After 88 years of life, his health quickly deteriorated and he left us. Though it wasn’t a surprise, it did happen fairly quickly. He was with a doubt the most at peace person I’ve seen, and was ready to go. Still, our boys went from having four great-parents still alive to only three. Though they’re only a year and a half old, I wanted to make sure they understood what […]

I survived a 12-hour road trip with two toddlers, so you can too

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Is it really worse to travel 12 hours in a car than 2 hours in a plane? After a horrible experience flying for the first time with our 15-month-old twins over the summer thanks to flight delays overnight, my wife and I decided to risk toddler tantrums in the car rather than in the air. Though the flight to Chicago from New Jersey is less than two hours and the drive over 12, we decided […]

A twin pregnancy; my experience of twins with an IUGR

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The following is a guest post from Alan Langdon, fellow father of twins. Beyoncé, Ronaldo and Ross Kemp are all famous celebrities that have recently became twin parents. Becoming a parent to twins is an amazingly scary but exciting thing. Like the aforementioned celebs, we weren’t aware just how much the risk increases to the mother and babies throughout a twin pregnancy. Some of the risks include; Pregnancy induced hypertension otherwise know as high blood pressure during […]

I’m giving my kids a crappy car for their first and everyone should too

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I was always surprised by the number of BMW, Mercedes, Porsche, and Lexus SUVs other kids at my college drove. For me, I entered school with an ancient Volvo 240, a tank of a car, and I wouldn’t take it back even 15 years later. That car built character, taught me the value of hard work, and was the center of plenty of incredible college memories. I want my children to have the same, so […]

Is chivalry dead? Not dead yet.

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“You’ve got your hands full.” I often hear this cliche spoken to myself or my wife as we make our way around with our twins. Many times, we literally do, carrying a child in each arm. Other times, it’s the twin stroller loaded up with bags and toys to keep us going during a day out with the boys. In either case, the speaker tends to not go beyond words and we’re left to navigate […]

I am a software developer and I’m keeping my children away from technology

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Our smartphones, tablets, TVs, and computers are pretty impressive. They’ve become integral parts of our lives and many of us cannot imagine life without them. In the ten years since the debut of the original iPhone and arguably the launch of the smartphone revolution (sorry Palm), our phones have become an extension of ourselves. Phones have come with many benefits. We are always connected now, getting updates from friends and family constantly. The world is […]