Technology has changed, but is it for the better?

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Call me old, but I remember the days before the internet, the iPhone, and modern computers. I was a do-it-your-selfer, building several computers from components, throwing together programs starting on a graphing calculator, moving to BASIC, and eventually learning to program. This aptitude gave me the ability to problem solve and focus on a singular, difficult task until complete, and I feel is responsible for my success in software development as a career. The industry […]

Is chivalry dead? Not dead yet.

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“You’ve got your hands full.” I often hear this cliche spoken to myself or my wife as we make our way around with our twins. Many times, we literally do, carrying a child in each arm. Other times, it’s the twin stroller loaded up with bags and toys to keep us going during a day out with the boys. In either case, the speaker tends to not go beyond words and we’re left to navigate […]

I am a software developer and I’m keeping my children away from technology

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Our smartphones, tablets, TVs, and computers are pretty impressive. They’ve become integral parts of our lives and many of us cannot imagine life without them. In the ten years since the debut of the original iPhone and arguably the launch of the smartphone revolution (sorry Palm), our phones have become an extension of ourselves. Phones have come with many benefits. We are always connected now, getting updates from friends and family constantly. The world is […]

What kind of father do I want to be?

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The middle of June is a time for reflection and looking forward for me. Our twins’ birthday, Father’s Day, and my own birthday all come within two short weeks, leaving several days to not only look back at the past year, but think about what the next will bring as well. This year, with the boys’ first birthday and my second Father’s Day – the first was after three days of being a father last […]

A fairy tale wedding on Mackinac Island

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As I stand next to my best friend from high school, holding his wedding rings during the ceremony in which he is about to marry his soon-to-be wife, I completely understand why they have chosen Mackinac Island for their wedding. With the lapis-blue lake behind us, a lush green lawn with Adirondack chairs accented by colorful flowers to the side, and the Victorian charm of the Mission Point Resort in front, I instantly grasp how […]

A year already? Life lessons from the first year of fatherhood

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How can 365 days fly by so fast, especially after the first 6 weeks took so long? It feels like no time has passed since I stood in the operating room in the hospital next to my wife and was quickly handed not one but two greenish, slimy, fragile looking potatoes with spindly limbs. It would take a few more hours for it to sink in that I was a father now. Actually, it might […]

Every kid should have to suffer through a few bad jobs

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Every kid should have to suffer through a few bad jobs I’m 16 years old. I scoop ice cream, burn my hand on a popcorn machine, and learn more about cleaning a squirrel nest out of a miniature golf course hole than I ever thought I would need to. These lessons won’t necessarily every apply to me again in life, but the ability to muscle down and do terrible, unpleasant work and stick through it […]

10 ways becoming a father made me a better manager at work

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I’ve written before how my job has helped teach me some valuable lessons that applied to parenting. The technology I interact with on a daily basis, the processes and frameworks we use, and the lessons I’ve learned managing a team have all inspired me to apply these to how I’m raising my kids. I’ve brought home A/B testing, machine learning, and agile practices to help learn and become a better dad. My team has taught […]

The 10 most Hygge places in NYC

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Danes, my people, are the happiest people on Earth. Maybe it’s the beautiful Danish summer when the sun hardly sets. Maybe it’s the coffee. Maybe it’s the Baltic Sea air. Or maybe, it’s the Danish culture of hygge. Hygge is a unique concept that only exists in Denmark. The closest translation would be something like a combination of coziness and homey-ness. Hygge is the comfort you feel in a favorite worn in pair of pajamas […]

The 5 best breweries for parents in Northern New Jersey

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Chemistry, responsible behavior, socializing, and getting used to being out of the house and not the center of the universe, breweries have…