I’m using Chaos Engineering to monkey with my children

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What’s more complex, a large-scale distributed system or a child. For parents, it’s obvious. At least systems tend to behave rationally. However, much like children, large systems are inherently complex. As complexity increases, unforeseen behavior emerges and causes unpredictable results. Sound like a child? Chaos Engineering, a software engineering methodology, aims to understand that complexity through experiments. Chaos Engineering is the practice of utilizing experiments to better understand complex systems by intentionally causing chaos and measuring […]

I stopped giving my kids Christmas presents to teach them charity, gratitude, and appreciation.

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For our twins’ first Christmas, the pile of presents under the tree surrounded the entire tree and stacked up halfway. That was just the presents for the boys. Gift giving is a holiday tradition for many families but with new children, it can easily feel excessive. For their second Christmas, we decided to minimize presents as much as possible, especially from us, and do our best to teach them charity and gratitude instead. It’s going […]

Reflections on 2017: a tough year in the world and our entry to toddlerhood

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For many people, 2017 was a pretty rough year. The world seems to have gone crazy with political tensions running high. No one is getting along and people are more divided than ever. Yet, for me, 2017 was a fairly good year. As our first full year with the twins, we had a lot of milestones and fun times over the year. At the beginning of the year, the boys started daycare. We were fortunate […]

Am I feeding my kids enough? Parental food anxiety is real.

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After graduating from bottles to solid food, so many new fears come out around feeding children. Bottles allow easy measurement of the amount of food so it’s fairly easy to know if kids are getting enough. Once the real food starts, measuring the amount is just the tip of the iceberg. From worrying about nutrition to allergies and anxiety about refusing food, it gets so much harder for parents. On the bright side, watching kids […]

A weekend of food, craft beer, and beaches on the Delaware Shore

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In sometime around 1998 or so, I spent a weekend in Rehoboth, Delaware with my church youth group, working on a house for habitat for humanity. After a long day of accidentally pulling down an entire tree rather than just the vines on it and hammering in nails to hold down roof tiles to later realize they were upside down, we got to explore the beach and boardwalk of the shore. Since then, I’ve had […]

My grandfather died. This is how I’m trying to explain it to my kids

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My grandfather recently passed away. After 88 years of life, his health quickly deteriorated and he left us. Though it wasn’t a surprise, it did happen fairly quickly. He was with a doubt the most at peace person I’ve seen, and was ready to go. Still, our boys went from having four great-parents still alive to only three. Though they’re only a year and a half old, I wanted to make sure they understood what […]

Beer, beaches, and babies in Portsmouth, NH

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Portsmouth, NH probably isn’t the first place that comes to mind when talking about beaches. Sure, New England is known for seafood, particularly lobsters, but until we traveled there, I didn’t even realize New Hampshire touched the ocean. The small stretch of coastal New Hampshire packs a wallop though and is absolutely worth a visit. It’s not just Cape Cod that has picturesque New England seafood shacks, shanties, and fishermen galore. The little slice of […]

I survived a 12-hour road trip with two toddlers, so you can too

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Is it really worse to travel 12 hours in a car than 2 hours in a plane? After a horrible experience flying for the first time with our 15-month-old twins over the summer thanks to flight delays overnight, my wife and I decided to risk toddler tantrums in the car rather than in the air. Though the flight to Chicago from New Jersey is less than two hours and the drive over 12, we decided […]

What to do for a perfect day in Fläm, Norway

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I’m a fan of Fläm Chances are, you’ve never heard of Fläm, Norway. This small town on a massive Norwegian fjord deserves attention though as the perfect jumping off point for an exploration of the fjords, mountains, and pristine cascading waterfalls of the area. Nature lovers will absolutely love the beauty of the area. But there’s a ton to do in this small town for everyone. Shoppers and craft beer aficionados will find plenty to […]

I’m giving my kids a crappy car for their first and everyone should too

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I was always surprised by the number of BMW, Mercedes, Porsche, and Lexus SUVs other kids at my college drove. For me, I entered school with an ancient Volvo 240, a tank of a car, and I wouldn’t take it back even 15 years later. That car built character, taught me the value of hard work, and was the center of plenty of incredible college memories. I want my children to have the same, so […]